Okay, us gals have done our swooning and debating over Edward versus Jacob. What about the guys?As a debatedly conscientious mother of a growing male, I am committed to providing opportunities for him to enrich his mind and spirit. I try to expose him to great literature, music, theater, art, and—even, Dudes—musicals and ballet.
And, as someone who loves movies and grew up watching way too many on TV, I especially want to give him a solid introduction to the best of cinema. In particular, as he continues to grow and when he's ready, I want to give him the opportunity to see those films that are particularly essential to the shared cultural identity of the American male.
Google “Best Guy Movies,” and you’ll get various lists. One implication of these lists is that to be a 21st century man of sophistication, you should at least be familiar with some of these films—even if you don’t necessarily like them.
For better and for worse, these films are part of our collective history and culture. (And, my womyn friends? Feminist film theory and concerns about the patriarchy aside, that includes us.)
These films reflect back to us our ideas about masculinity, as well as our shared mythology of what it means to live, work, struggle, and die in this nation of ours. (No, I'm not gonna go Sarah Palin treacly on you.) I’m sure a lot of readers have their own list of favorite guy movies. Here are mine.
Sure, I'm a girl, but I should add that you don’t need to be a guy to love or at least appreciate some of these movies. Some of them happen to be among my own favorites, so I take great pleasure in introducing them to my son.
My list is in no way complete. I’m sure some have slipped my mind, and I don’t list certain obvious ones—notably the James Bond, Star Wars, Spiderman, Batman, and X-Men franchises. Or any of the John Apatow ouvre. Also, you won't see many Westerns, notably those of--genuflect--John Ford. Sorry, I just never got into Westerns... And, my list probably skews more towards classics, so I'd love to get some more current flicks.
Anyway, here we go, and feel free to chime in with picks of your own:
My list is in no way complete. I’m sure some have slipped my mind, and I don’t list certain obvious ones—notably the James Bond, Star Wars, Spiderman, Batman, and X-Men franchises. Or any of the John Apatow ouvre. Also, you won't see many Westerns, notably those of--genuflect--John Ford. Sorry, I just never got into Westerns... And, my list probably skews more towards classics, so I'd love to get some more current flicks.
Anyway, here we go, and feel free to chime in with picks of your own:
The Top Two
That is, based on the obsession of male friends for multiple viewings and attempts at quoting, word for word, extended scenes from the movies.
Goofballs
The Three Stooges: When I was growing up, my brother, like all males, loved them; I hated them. Then, I watched them with my son. When Larry, Curly and Moe are at their best, they are amazingly funny in a slapstick, crazed way.
The Marx Brothers: Try their early 1930s "pre-code" films, notably Horse Feathers (1932) and Duck Soup (1933), when they were at the height of their genius for unsentimental comic anarchy.
Mel Brooks: The Producers (the original 1968 film with Zero Mostel and Gene Wilder, a breezy comic gem, not the bloated musical version), Blazing Saddles (1974), and Young Frankenstein (1974--Frau Blucher!)
Woody Allen in his pre-serious mode (even though I love his mostly serious mode, too), and mostly with his great muse, Diane Keaton: Take the Money and Run (1969), Bananas (1971), Play it Again, Sam (1972), Sleeper (1973), Love and Death (1975).
My son's favorites of late? Adam Sandler (The Wedding Singer), Simon Pegg (Saun of the Dead, 2004), Jack Black (The School of Rock, 2003), Ben Stiller, Jack Black, and Robert Downey, Jr. (Tropic Thunder, 2008).
Spartacus (1960): Kirk Douglas takes on the corrupt Roman Empire in this Stanley Kubrick epic, which also features a homoerotic bath scene with Tony Curtis and Laurence Olivier.
From Here to Eternity (1953): Burt Lancaster rolling in the Oahu waves with Deborah Kerr; Montgomery Cliff, jittery and sensitive; Frank Sinatra in the role that inspired the character of Johnny Fontane in The Godfather!
Orson Welles as Charles Foster Kane in Citizen Kane (1941) and as Harry Lyme in The Third Man (1949).
Last Man Standing
Essence of Cool
Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca (1942): Every real man needs to know how to wear a white dinner jacket in a night club, or a trench coat on a foggy night at the airport. He also needs to know how to cry into his whiskey over memories of lost love and Paris, be a good friend, and choose to do the right--if painful--thing in the end.
Rites of Passage
The Graduate (1967): Here's to you, Mrs. Robinson
Risky Business (1983): Tom Cruise when he was still dewy, fresh-faced, charming, and, we imagine, Scientology-free.
Fast Times at Ridgemont High (1982): In some ways, this Amy Heckerling-directed film more involves a rite of passage for the virginal Jennifer Jason Leigh character, who really wants to know what sex is about and lose her virginity, but you do have Sean Penn as Spicoli!)
The Breakfast Club (1985): The '80s "Brat Pack" in full force!
Say Anything (1989): John Cusack as a noble underachiever goes after the class valedictorian.
Boys N the Hood (1991).
Rage Against the Machine
Rage Against the Machine
Spartacus (1960): Kirk Douglas takes on the corrupt Roman Empire in this Stanley Kubrick epic, which also features a homoerotic bath scene with Tony Curtis and Laurence Olivier.Gladiator (2000): Russell Crowe takes on the corrupt Roman Empire
On the Watefront (1954): Marlon Brando takes on corrupt unions attempting to control New Jersey docks.
Cool Hand Luke (1967): Paul Newman takes on a corrupt Southern prison
Serpico (1973): Al Pacino takes on a corrupt New York city police department.
Taxi Driver (1976): Robert DeNiro takes on the corruption in his own mind
To Boldly Go:
War is Hell
From Here to Eternity (1953): Burt Lancaster rolling in the Oahu waves with Deborah Kerr; Montgomery Cliff, jittery and sensitive; Frank Sinatra in the role that inspired the character of Johnny Fontane in The Godfather!The Bridge on the River Kwai (1957): One of my top-ten favorites. Best Picture winner that has gorgeous Southeast Asian jungle locations that made me want to see the world; Great debates about honor, duty, and self-preservation, and one of the most thrilling film endings.
Paths of Glory (1957): Stanley Kubrick's view of the corruption of power among generals blithely deciding the fate of front-line soldiers fighting a hopeless battle in the trenches of World War I. Hmm, sound familiar?
The Great Escape (1963): Steve McQueen tearing through Alpine countryside, escaping the Nazis. So cool.
And:
Scoundrels
Orson Welles as Charles Foster Kane in Citizen Kane (1941) and as Harry Lyme in The Third Man (1949).Anthony Perkins in Psycho (1960): Says Norman Bates: “A boy’s best friend is his mother.”
Al Pacino, Marlon Brando, James Caan, Robert Duvall, and Robert DeNiro in the Godfathers I (1972) and II (1974).
Robert DeNiro as Jake LaMotta in The Raging Bull (1980).
Dana Andrews, as the obsessed homicide cop in Laura (1944) and as the lost-soul former World War II flying ace trying to return to civilian life in The Best Years of Our Lives (1946).
James Stewart in Vertigo (1958)
Clint Eastwood (jazz radio host facing a stalking fan) in Play Misty for Me (1971).
James Stewart in Vertigo (1958)
Clint Eastwood (jazz radio host facing a stalking fan) in Play Misty for Me (1971).
Marlon Brando in Last Tango in Paris (1972): Of course, for mature audiences only! And bring me the butter!
Special mention: Humphrey Bogart as the scheming, gold-digging loser Fred C. Dobbs in Treasure of Sierra Madre (1948); as a down-on-his luck screenwriter with an anger management problem in the romantic, melancholy In a Lonely Place (1950); and as a nutty, controlling, OCD World War II navy Captain Queeg in The Caine Mutiny (1954).
Cops and Robbers
Cops and Robbers
Manhattan Melodrama: The 1934 film that solidified Clark Gable’s stature as "king of Hollywood," and that drew John Dillinger out of his hidey hole so that he could get shot up by federal agents.
Bullitt (1968)
Boys Do Cry 
Gary Cooper as the terminally ill Lou Gehrig in The Pride of the Yankees (1942).
James Caan and Billy Dee Williams as real-life Chicago Bears football pals, one diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, in Brian’s Song (1971).
Brokeback Mountain (2005).
Last Man Standing
